“I don’t want my children to be happy.”

I know, I know…how can I say such a thing?  I mean, just look at this precious smiling face!  Isn’t every parent’s desire that their children grow up to be healthy and happy?  If we dig deeper, I think we’ll find that there is a lot more to life than happiness…

I recently read this blog post and was touched by the truth and convictions of this woman’s letter to her children regarding naysayers’ opinions on their decision to adopt.  It made me realize how important it is for us as Christians to have a Kingdom-focused perspective in every area of our lives, because it is so easy to be side swept by stuff and things and moments in this meaningless present – a mere mist, according to James 4:14, in the scheme of eternity!  It is so easy to make the here and now the focus of our obsession.  How quickly we forget that we are here for such a short time.

Maybe it is because I have been reading Crazy Love (read this book…you won’t be sorry) by Francis Chan, but this kind of Christ-centric, eternity-focused living has been central to the things that I have been learning and reading about lately.  I appreciated this blogger’s application of that principle to my role as a parent.  I deeply desire my children to have intimate relationships with the Lord.  I don’t want them to be so easily swayed into happiness or discontent because of trivial things in this temporal world.  Instead of seeking after things that will vanish, I pray that my life – though far from perfect! – will reflect the heart of the Father for the lost and orphaned!

My words don’t do her letter justice, though, so please read the post yourself!

One thought on ““I don’t want my children to be happy.”

  1. I’m so glad you posted this, and the link to the original blog. We had a sermon, about a year and a half ago, and the only thing I remember from it is “God doesn’t want you to be happy. He wants you to be holy.” That resonated with me. So little in our world makes us truly “happy” – and it’s only when we seek the face of the Father that we understand true joy. This is something that I struggle with on a daily basis (because let’s face it, there’s a lot of attractive stuff out in our world), but I agree with you, I so desperately want my daughter (and myself) to be content whatever the circumstances. Thank you again for bringing that sermon and that truth to mind.

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